If you're going to read one book this year, make it Mark Manson's The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.
In the age of technology and social media, we start to see all these changes in human behaviour. I'm talking about in real life and in our digitally curated lives. In real life, we are pulled in different directions with what people think, what people say, and how we perceive ourselves. In the digital world, we're fed this false persona of being 💯 and what constitutes keeping it real. Mark Manson says, we only have so many fucks to give until we're out. Social media is not one where you should give a fuck to, especially how you feel when you're on it.
Don't get me wrong though, social media is a very useful and powerful tool in connecting people and selling your brand. But the dark side of how we compare our lives to what we see, we really shouldn't give a fuck about that. Case in point, Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO), how many people recreated the same image of skating on Trout Lake. How many photos did you see this past week on that? I'm not hating, I'm just illustrating the trend of what I saw on my social media feeds.
The other day at Bao Down I saw two girls posing in front of their food, requesting the server to take their photo on two separate occasions. They also took photos of their food at several angles. Now don't get me wrong, most of us DO this. It's part of the evolving world, our self brand and how we want to show our lives. But the important thing is, if you don't live the life you see on Instagram of other people, it's ok. You don't need to compare yourself to what is portrayed. Who cares what people think or how many likes ones get. Likes are meaningless in the end.
As you may already know, the author has no issue with dropping the word fuck. I didn't count the total times the author dropped the word but I'm pretty sure it's in the 100s. The way it's used conveys a certain honesty about the things he says. It hits to the core of my values and my eyes opened to a number of "Ah Ha moments" throughout the book.
The other topic he touches on is Happiness. He references the Hedonic Cycle and how consumerism is a vicious cycle for a false sense of happiness. I've read this concept before but it's nice to have that idea reinforced and said another way. A great way of understanding this concept is the art of Leasing cars. People who lease cars go through the cycle of new and move on to the next. New things make us happy for so long until whatever is bothering us in our lives return. So this cycle of new to old and new again is vicious in a sense that it never buys happiness for long.
There are so many things I loved about this book but suffering and struggle was one I enjoyed. A lot of us run away from the idea of life being difficult. We always want the easy way out of a difficult situation. But really, it should be looked at in reverse. We should crave the struggle as the struggle is more rewarding in the end versus not struggling at all. Happiness is perhaps found in the good problems that we solve rather than the easy ones. When you focus and just do it, you tend not to think about the difficulties but what's next to get to the end.
From this book I formulated three things to focus on. What's next, the next problem to work on. Zero fucks given, not giving a fuck about things that are out of my control. And Do more for myself in terms of making sure to take care of my physical and mental health.
I'm not going to give away any more content from this book, but I just suggest that you read it cause sometimes you just need a wake up call to see the world in another perspective.
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