I finally understand the point of behavioural interviews. For the longest time, I thought it was the dumbest format for getting to know an individual because it was just boring. My opinion changed when I experienced my first real behavioural interview in September of 2016.
Have you ever been arrested, placed in a bright but small room with two people sitting across the table from you? I’ve never been arrested but that interview in 2016 felt like I was arrested. They started easy, calming questions, made you feel at home and then the bad cop arrived. Follow-up after follow-up questions, trying to poke holes in the story. They succeeded, by the end of the interview I could no longer answer any more questions or ask any question.
I broke and it took me months to rebuild. I took the time to audit myself, my entire skill set and also my personality. I complained for about two weeks, blaming the interviewer for being a dick. In the end, my skillset was not what they were looking for and who’s the blame for that? Myself.
This brings me to the point of complaining. Complaining is so easy to do because all you’re doing is sitting having verbal diarrhea. Talking is the easy form of false-execution and being a problem solver by doing things is more difficult.
Unaware of what I was actually doing after the complaining stopped, I began to read life hacking books or also known as self-help books. I wanted to improve myself with the vast amount of knowledge that is found in between the pages. I took this process seriously, going from one book to another, trying to build my leadership skills. As a quick background, I was also offered a temporary supervisor role during the same time of the interview I failed.
In the end, it was a blessing in disguise that I was able to improve myself on multiple levels, the skills I was missing from the job I didn’t obtain and also leadership skills with my new temporary role.
But the main point I’m trying to get at with this article is that problems in your life can always have a potential to be a resume point. For example, if there is a challenging issue at hand, you can complain and just refuse to do something when a solution is possible. Or you could focus your energy to brainstorm what you can do, do it, succeed, and then have a great resume or behavioural interview point.
Each difficult situation in life will always present you with the option to fight or flee. Stop fleeing from your problems and take each situation as an opportunity to be 15–0 instead of 0–15. Be the champion in life and be that person that brings value to any situation because that “can do” attitude means you’re a fighter, not a complainer.
When I phrase it this way, it looks obvious doesn’t it? Our reactions or our behaviours predict future outcomes on how people react. My friend, mentor, and manager told me that, and he’s right in terms of behavioural patterns and how they play out over time.
I hope this article illustrated how I took a shitty situation and turned it around to become a more positive and rewarding experience. This article in itself stems from a negative situation I recently experienced and found the general theme of the situation. I hope this has brought you a new perspective and try hard at problem-solving than complaining.